What's your fetish?

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Want to know the secret of attracting someone and keeping their eyes fixated over only you? Cater to their most coveted turn-on—their fetishes.

A fetish is an unusual attraction towards something in particular, something that may not necessarily be a sexual preference in the mainstream society. The word is often used to mean any atypical sexual practice, sexual attraction to non-living and often non-sexual objects, body-partialism, or fixation that involves sexual identification or peculiar roles playing.

Having a fetish is normal, and everybody has some kind of or the other, though majority keeps it within their innermost self as a forbidden secret. While it’s true that every human has fetishes, the nature vary from common and acceptable to bizarre, weird or blatantly deranged.

Some fetishes have become quite acceptable in mainstream societies and are more likely to be shared readily; others are chained as prisoners behind the bars of subconscious, often repressed. The varieties of fetishes are vast and growing; while some are cool, others, quite disturbing. Some common fetishes include: BDSM, leather, schoolgirl, fishnets, cross dressing, spanking, feet/toes, panties (underwear), exhibitionism, voyeurism, biting, golden showers (piss-play)...And the list is endless.

While chatting (actually researching) with a girl on Internet, I was practically convinced that women are not purified of fetishes! Though their fetishes are few and common, they do give them huge turn-on, at least in their fantasies. After building a good rapport with my online subject, I asked her straightaway: What’s your fetish? She replied, “Oh lord I can’t...This is embarrassing…’ I pushed her further into revealing it. ‘WelI, I would like my boyfriend to rape me, not harshly, but somewhat in an abusive way. Just want to be little kinky…even though I’m against rape in real world”, she replied. She also mentioned about her girlfriend who had a fetish of playing a dominatrix while having sex.

It’s found out through studies that most woman fantasize about having sex in public places, being in pain, having hairs pulled, getting butts and thighs spanked, having ear-lobes sucked etc….

Psychologists have claimed that often fetishists are 'in love' with the fetish object (such as leather, underwear or whatever) instead of the person. However, fetishism is not considered a disorder unless and until it starts to interfere with the individual’s day-to-day life.

If the later happens, you might want to talk to a counselor. A normal mind should have the power to control the fetish, rather than the fetish controlling the mind. Often fetishistic practices are rendered forbidden on account of their ostensibly abnormal nature, however many culture promote some fetishes as a way to spice up sex life. It’s fair to keep in mind that fetishes are completely normal provided they don’t cause any physical or psychological harm to either oneself or to the others.