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During my high-school days, I had a
friend named Ravi who always used to ask me about how to increase body weight
and how to pack up more lean muscles. I was not a counselor then(neither I was
a bodybuilder), but still since my father is a doctor, I’d had an overwhelming repute
in classroom, and often my friends would come to me seeking solutions to their
health problems(and piss me off). Ravi was really not a very skinny guy— he was
fit and had a nice athletic body but surprisingly he considered himself to be
thin and unattractive. When I asked him why he’s been so desperate about changing
his body figure which indeed looked good, he had no answer to it; or maybe he
didn’t want to reveal. I too really seemed to bother less. But now after
getting acquainted with psychology pretty well, I can easily comprehended why
he used to say that, and I wish I could have been able to help him at that
time. The main problem with most of us who’re unhappy with ourselves is that we
don’t accept ourselves the way we are.
Learning to love our body just the way it
is can be a virtuous choice to make. Self acceptance creates
an upwelling of feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine that foster a sense of self-reverence ,
and helps us become a more enthusiastic person
According to Kay Hutchinson, a former
united states senator, “our energy flow changes when we love and accept our
physical form just the way it is. That wonderful sense of self-acceptance will
naturally attract abundantly supportive people and situations into your life.” Failing
to do so will pave an easy way for depression creep in.
Often depression occurs when we constantly feed ourselves
with negative thoughts and tend to hate
ourselves for our natural traits over which we have got no control over. When we
accept our bodies and start loving it, we start to develop affirmative surge of
thoughts that avow how beautiful and good we are.
Besides learning how to accept our body, we must also learn
to accept our personality. Personality is a unique attribute of an individual
projected in the form of emotional, attitudinal, and behavioral response
patterns. It is typically split into components
called the Big
Five personality traits,
which are openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion,
agreeableness, and neuroticism. Normally, these components are steady over time
and allegedly attributable to a person’s inheritance rather than the upshot of
one’s environment. But these allegations are sometimes challenged by other
school of psychology which says that environment plays greater role in shaping
ones personality (Nature vs Nurture). I settle on the belief that both genetics
and environment are equally influential in shaping ones personality, more or
less in a 50-50 proportion. The 50 percent of our personality that’s based on
genetics can’t be changed so must be accepted while the remaining 50 percent
which are susceptible change can be looked upon as something that we can amend
if the situation demands so.
As social beings, we are conditioned to believe
that loving oneself and taking pride in our achievements is egoism and
arrogance. That’s pure bullshit. We are
all valuable designs of nature(or God as you may call it) and there's nothing
wrong in reckoning ourselves in the same respect as we reckon anyone else. It
can be tempting at times to be hard on ourselves but we must learn to be strong
enough to overcome this temptation. We must understand that disliking or hating
ourselves is a destructive mental conditioning, and it does no good to anyone.
As human beings, we all have dignity and pride, and there is not much
difference between the 'great' and 'not-so-great' in the eyes of God.
